Life is Crap: When Bad Sh*t Happens to Good People

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Our soul, on the other hand, is focused on love and unity: on learning how to love, behaving from a place of love, speaking with love, and ultimately, embodying love as our True Nature. Ask yourself if you feel dismissed, ignored, judged, negative energy in the space, or like you’re walking on eggshells to avoid conflict with someone," Morales says. If you have that buddy who guilt trips you for asserting your boundaries or communicating your needs, these symptoms of a bad friendship are likely to pop up everywhere. "I would have invited you to my birthday party, but I know you're so depressed all the time" is a great way to make you feel guilty, take away your choices, and delegitimize your mental health needs, all in one painful text. If "guilt trip" isn't on your list of dream destinations, saying goodbye is more than acceptable. 14. The Friend Who Violates Your Trust If you’re struggling to do this on your own, consider seeking professional help like cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). And because of that, I identify more with a phrase that you sometimes hear passed around: “You are what you do.”

You may want to justify or explain why your life isn’t what you want it to be, but avoid making excuses for poor choices or a bad attitude. Sarah O'Connor, "Left behind: can anyone save the towns the economy forgot?", Financial Times (2017) [2] A lot of people mistakenly think they’re tired or hungry when the truth is that they’re dehydrated. Drink a large glass of water right after you wake up and continue to drink water throughout the day.

Personality fit never mattered much to me. The commonly spoken belief is that you have to sync up perfectly with your therapist in personality so you can feel comfortable enough to be honest and open up – which I largely think is an easy excuse to avoid doing the hard work. My heart stops. I'm not exaggerating. I swear, for a pure second, my chest seized and all the blood flowing in my veins pauses. I can't believe he would say something like that. From the look on everyone's faces, they can't believe it either.

Life is hard. Sometimes you get slammed out of nowhere by things entirely outside your control. Often, those things may not be something you wanted or asked for.I also think having life experinces good/challenging ones, such as overcoming adverse crap life/childhood experiences etc, if someone who is a Life coach or Therapist has managed to overcome Crap stuff in life in way that is made them emotionally stronger person for e.g

Then you wake up one day and all the problems are still there. The magic solution you thought would save you from all the negative things in your life was nothing else than a tale. You have years of thoughts, feelings, and choices that have led you to your current situation. Be patient while you change course and redirect your life. 25. Stop complaining. I always used to be a fighter and an optimestic person, but the amount of problems I have been having recently crushed me!In truth though, antidepressants are not the answer, but you can feel helpless to do otherwise and end up medicalising someone's shit life. As a GP, you need to sometimes realise your limitations too. You cannot cure everyone with a pill. I'm not talking about the friend who lives with chronic pain and sometimes needs to change plans because they're having a flare-up. I'm talking about the friend who is always three hours late without texting or offering an apology, or the friend who constantly leaves you hanging without confirming or cancelling plans, leaving you in a perpetual state of limbo as to what the deal is. You don't have to play that limbo game, because you really can set the bar higher. 5. The Friend Who Judges You For Your Goals We need (as Andrew Adonis and I argue in Saving Britain) an industrial policy not just for the City, but for the country, a repurposing of enterprise, a re-enfranchisement of workforces and a remaking of our threadbare social contract, in particular the dysfunctional care system. Too many of England’s towns, even some in the south-east, are becoming crucibles of shit-life syndrome. They have become inward-looking, urban islands in which despair and despondency are too prevalent; their high streets in decline while hi-tech, knowledge-intensive jobs pass them by. Train and bus fares are so high that travelling within them has become prohibitively expensive. Stripped of power by the most centralised system in Europe, they are disempowered and sullen about the present and apprehensive of the future. All this can and must change. Answer: First, embrace your feelings without judgment. Mistakes happen to everyone! Consider writing down the lessons learned and finding one small positive action to take right now toward amending the situation or moving forward. Discuss your feelings with a trusted friend or professional to gain new perspectives.

Or, maybe, just maybe…you’re human and made a bad decision. Everyone does that shit sooner or later. Everyone. And if they claim not to? Well, I have to say that they are not someone that I’d trust at all. I’d assume they’re lying to cover up whatever they’ve done, or they’re doing. Not that everyone is entitled to know your business or anything like that, but more that they’re being deceptive about it. You don’t have to be owned by your trauma or the way it’s conditioned you. You don’t have to be owned by the bad things you did in the past. All you have to do today is make better decisions than yesterday. That may require readjusting your worldview, therapy, medication, or self-teaching skills through whatever media is good for you. Also, you might opt for sedentary activities like movie marathons rather than going for a walk, run, or any exercise routine. This sedentary lifestyle can contribute to feelings of lethargy and emotional unease.Here’s that link again if you’d like to learn more about the service BetterHelp.com provide and the process of getting started. There are many places you can find a better North Star to follow. It could be philosophy, friends, therapy, or even religion. Religion offered plenty of people peace and direction when they needed it. You don’t necessarily need to believe in all the spiritual aspects if they don’t resonate with you. Just the framework of decision-making and how to make better decisions can be helpful.